Welcome to My Skinny Chick Diary

You have just opened the pages of my "Skinny Chick" diary. You will read the words of wisdom from my (and your) inner "Skinny Chick". You may be surprised at what you read. This diary recounts my journey as my "inner" Skinny Chick meets my new "outer" skinny chick. How does this transformation actually happen? Read and you will find out how listening to your inner "Skinny Chick" can transform you too.

Friday, June 28, 2013

Skinny Chick Quote of the Day

"Be yourself: No one can ever tell you you're doing it wrong." 
-James Leo Herlihy 

Thursday, June 27, 2013

Tuesday, June 25, 2013

Skinny Chick Quote of the Day

"What you do every day matters more than what you do once in awhile." 
-Gretchen Rubin

Monday, June 24, 2013

The Scale: Friend or Foe

Over the past couple of weeks I have been having a personal battle with my scale. It just doesn't seem to be saying what I would like it to say. And I have to confess, this is the first time in over 2 years that this has happened. So you can imagine my surprise when I found myself questioning the numbers that I saw on the scale. "What in the world did I do?" "I seem to be doing the same things." "How was my activity this week?" "How many times did I eat out?" These are just a few of the questions that I ask myself to evaluate my week. But, when all the answers to these questions are in line with what you normally do to be successful...then WHAT?

MY INNER SKINNY CHICK says: Sometimes the number on the scale has nothing to do with how successful you have been in your journey to healthy living. As much as this doesn't make sense to most of us, including myself at times, there are lots of other reasons that the number on the scale may not match our efforts. For instance, in my case, I am dealing with some health issues that caused my weight to be up a couple of pounds. Although, I know this to be true, it still seemed to discourage me. There are many other reasons that the scale could be up. For example, did you consume a meal with lots of sodium recently? How about activity; did you try something new that's got you really sore? Maybe your doctor has got you on a different medication. It might even be a hormonal issue. All these reasons could result in water retention which could show as weight gain on the scale.

So how do we stay positive during these times and keep ourselves from spiraling out of control? Here's what works for me. MY INNER SKINNY CHICK says: Establish a non-scale related goal for yourself each week. That way if the scale doesn't say what you would like it to, you are still successful if you achieved your goal. It also helps to think about the things that you have been doing well and what you are proud of. For me, I tried Zumba for the first time last week and it was AMAZING. I have also been doing yoga every morning and have deepened my practice. I have increased my intake of vegetables, which has always been a struggle for me. And even though the scale is up, my clothes are still fitting nicely. See, I found a way to reframe my situation to accentuate the positive things that I have accomplished. This really works and keeps me motivated to keep on going. Remember, this is your journey; no one else's. You are in control of how you react to situations that arise in your life. You can either let them keep you down or fight until the end.

Friday, June 21, 2013

Thursday, June 20, 2013

Skinny Chick Quote of the Day

"Don't ask what the world needs. Ask what makes you come alive, and go do it. Because what the world needs is people who have come alive." 
-Howard Thurman 

Tuesday, June 18, 2013

Skinny Chick Quote of the Day

"I am always doing that which I cannot do, in order that I may learn how to do it." 
-Pablo Picasso 

Translated: Practice makes perfect! 

Thursday, June 13, 2013

Skinny Chick Quote of the Day

"Cherish your friends, stay true to your principles, live passionately and fully and well." 
-David Nicholls 

Tuesday, June 11, 2013

Moving Forward: One Tiny Step at a Time


It seems like we're all in a rush, especially when it comes to weight-loss. We've got this mindset of, "Let's see how much weight I can lose in the shortest amount of time." Is it really fair to expect this of ourselves when, in most cases, we didn't put the weight on in a short amount of time? When people find out that I have lost 40 pounds, the first thing they ask me is, "How long did it take for you to lose the weight?" I always find this question interesting because I wonder if it will make a difference for them how I answer the question. If I said it took me 10 years, would those inquiring change their mind about the importance for them to adopt a healthy lifestyle? Would it make me less credible? I really don't know.

What I do know is that we are focusing on the wrong thing. My INNER SKINNY CHICK says: Instead of stressing over how long it is taking you to LOSE weight, why not focus on how LONG you are going to keep the weight OFF.  If this is our mindset from day one, I think that most of us would have a whole different approach to our weight-loss. Instead of trying the latest fad that promises quick results with minimal effort, we would try a plan that makes sense for us in everyday living and incorporates flexibility for our ever-changing lives. I think (and this is just my opinion) that the reason why most of us don't adopt this mindset is because it implies that we will be making a commitment to live healthy for an extended period of time, maybe even for life. This concept may seem daunting for the vast majority of us. How can we possibly go from "couch potato" to "health nut?" Well, I will tell you that if you go into it expecting for this transformation to happen over night, you will just be shooting yourself in the foot. Change--real life-change--takes TIME. If you are looking to lose weight and keep it off, time is going to be your best friend. 

I know this is probably not what you want to hear. Hey, I didn't want to hear it either when I first started out. But, in order to make changes that stick, time is definitely on your side. So, how do we go about this time-consuming change? Well, I'm so glad you asked. My INNER SKINNY CHICK says: Setting manageable goals throughout your journey will get you one step closer to a total lifestyle change. Ah, yes; GOAL-SETTING. This is probably the most powerful skill that you can learn. I will share with you the 3 things that I consider when setting goals for myself. These are characteristics for effective goals no matter what area of life you wish to use them.

1. Make sure your goals are SIMPLE. 
Simplicity is the key. The smaller the goal the better. Small goals are more attainable and are things that you can actually do or achieve. Have you ever made a New Year's resolution? How many times did you actually keep it? More often then not, these resolutions are broken, sometimes even before the end of January. This is typically due to the grand nature of the goal. It's so HUGE that you can't possibly keep it. Stack the deck in your favor. Set yourself up to succeed. A goal met is a WIN no matter how small it is. The small things add up over time to true life-change. 
2. Keep your goals SPECIFIC. 
It's nice to say that you want to run or walk. But, how far? How long? How often? Answering these questions will make your goal more specific, therefore measurable. How will we know if we have actually met our goal if there are no specifics? It's a lot easier to know if I've met my goal if I say, "I want to walk 3 times a week for 30 minutes" then if I just say, "I want to walk." 
3. Be REALISTIC. 
Going back to our goal of walking, do you think it's realistic for me to set a goal to walk 5 miles if I have never even walked 1 mile? Probably not. If we set goals that are unrealistic for ourselves, we may not be able to meet them and this will do nothing but discourage us. When you are setting goals ask yourself this question, "Is this doable for me?"  It's so important to add the "for me" part. The goal may be doable, but for someone else. What good will that do you? It must be realistic and doable for YOU. 

So there you have it. SIMPLE, SPECIFIC and REALISTIC. If your goals have these characteristics, you're on your way to behavioral changes with staying power. Again, I want to reiterate, this will take TIME. But, what happens when you set a goal and achieve it? Most of us feel excited, proud and empowered to go further. You may even set another goal. Before you know it, you will notice a change in yourself and you'll wonder, "Hey, when did that happen?"

Wednesday, June 5, 2013

What's the BPM?

Music is such an important part of my workout routine. Research has shown that songs with a tempo of 120 bpm (beats per minute) or higher are great for cardio exercise. This is because your heart rate will naturally want to sync to the tempo of the music. MY INNER SKINNY CHICK says: Everything is better with a soundtrack. So find yours and get MOVING.

Here a list of my favorite songs to listen to while running. Most of these songs have a tempo of 120 bpm or higher. Feel free to steal these and add them to your playlist.

Note: Some of these songs my contain explicit lyrics

PUSHER LOVE GIRL-JUSTIN TIMBERLAKE
MY LOVE-JUSTIN TIMBERLAKE/T.I.
I CAN TRANSFORM YA-CHRIS BROWN
BEEZ IN THE TRAP-NICKI MINAJ
STARSHIPS-NICKI MINAJ
POUND THE ALARM-NICKI MINAJ
HARD-RIHANNA
RUDE BOY-RIHANNA
WANNA BE STARTIN SOMETHIN-MICHAEL JACKSON
GET ME BODIED-BEYONCE
UPGRADE U-BEYONCE/JAY-Z
DEJA VU-BEYONCE/JAY-Z
RUN THIS TOWN-JAY-Z
ON TO THE NEXT ONE-JAY-Z
REMINDER-JAY-Z
THE WAY YOU MAKE ME FEEL-MICHAEL JACKSON
ANOTHER PART OF ME-MICHAEL JACKSON
DIRTY DIANA-MICHAEL JACKSON
CRAZY IN LOVE-BEYONCE/JAY-Z
BOOM BOOM POW-BLACK EYED PEAS
SUIT & TIE-JUSTIN TIMBERLAKE
DON'T HOLD THE WALL-JUSTIN TIMBERLAKE
MIRRORS-JUSTIN TIMBERLAKE
COUNTDOWN-BEYONCE
END OF TIME-BEYONCE
RUN THE WORLD (GIRLS)-BEYONCE
PON DE REPLAY-RIHANNA
DON'T STOP THE MUSIC-RIHANNA
ADDICTION-RYAN LESLIE
SUNDAY MORNING-MAROON 5
MOVES LIKE JAGGER-MAROON 5
MAKES ME WONDER-MAROON 5
ONE MORE NIGHT-MAROON 5 

You can also find more 120 bpm songs by doing a google search or use this link:

Monday, June 3, 2013

Cupcake WARS

A cupcake. You would not believe how much of an impact this simple treat has had on my weight-loss journey. It's quite interesting because before I began losing weight, I really was never moved or tempted by cupcakes. I would much rather have indulged in a piece of cake, preferably Carrot, Red Velvet or a refreshing piece of Key Lime Pie. Cupcakes were a tease to me. Little did I know, this was all about to change. 

I can remember the day my battle began with cupcakes. It was a battle that I would ultimately win, however it doesn't seem that way in the beginning. It was in February of 2011. I was about 3 months into my weight-loss journey with Weight Watchers and I had been doing rather well. I had begun to figure out a way to stick to my daily target of points and not feel particularly deprived, all while losing weight at a healthy rate each week. It was my employee's birthday and I decided, as a treat, I would bring her cupcakes to celebrate her day. Keep in mind, this was MY decision to buy the cupcakes. 

When the time came to open the box, everyone dove right in and grabbed their treat while I retreated to my office and indulged in my 2 point WW mini bar. I smiled to myself as I celebrated my victory of passing on the cupcakes. Then, out of nowhere my employee, who's birthday it was, came into my office with something in her hand. I could smell it as soon as she entered my space. What was she doing? How could she enter my sacred space with such a sinful indulgence? Is she really trying to see me fail? I couldn't think straight. And then it happened; the perfectly frosted cake of deliciousness was placed on my desk with a loud thud. Okay, so it really didn't make a thud, but it sure felt like it. 

Panic began to surge through my body. I could feel my will power beginning to melt away with every passing moment. I heard her say the words, "You forgot your cupcake." Then the battle began. "Oh, I'm not going to have a cupcake," I said. "I really don't want one." As I heard the lie come out my mouth, my desire begin to increase and I could feel myself beginning to salivate. "Do it for me," she said. "It's my birthday. It's not like you eat like this ALL the time." We began to go back and forth arguing our cases to the death. Finally she said, "Fine. I'm leaving this here for you." As she turned and walked out of my office and shut the door, I believe my heart stopped at that moment.

I sat there just staring at the cupcake. I started to take deep breaths, thinking to myself, "I don't really want this cupcake. If I just sit here long enough, it will pass." I began to tap my fingers on my desk and bite my pen. All the while the cupcake seemed to grow larger by the second.Then it happened...I tore into that cake like I hadn't eaten in at least a month. When my employee came back to check on me, the only evidence that was left of my battle with the cupcake was a few crumbs on my desk. She smiled at me with a knowing look and left.

I was thinking about the decision that I had made. I felt so guilty and pathetic. I felt as if I had set myself back and all the progress that I had made on my weight-loss journey up until this moment didn't mean a thing. Then I remembered something that I heard at my Weight Watchers meeting that week. Some members had mentioned that they were using their 49 extra points allowance to have treats throughout the week. I had prided myself in the fact that I had NEVER used any of my extra points. I had been able stay within my daily points without ever having to use any extra. I decided to figure out how many points my cupcake cost me. After determining that I had spent 14 points, I knew that if I wanted to eat for the rest of the week I was going to have to use some of those extra points. So I accounted for my cupcake. Believe it or not, I actually felt better. I had acknowledged what I had eaten.

That week when I attended my Weight Watchers meeting, I was extremely nervous about stepping on the scale because I knew about my battle with the cupcake. I held my breath, "Here goes." To my surprise...I had lost weight! I couldn't believe it. I was so shocked. I shared my cupcake story with my leader and the other members in the group. As I was describing what happened, I realized that what I was feeling was a result of deprivation. MY INNER SKINNY CHICK says: The way you lose your weight is the way that you will have to maintain your weight-loss. If you lose weight by deprivation, and not treating yourself along the way, you will have to maintain your loss by doing the same.

From that point on, I have used my extra allowance to treat myself every week, even with CUPCAKES! I actually celebrated my birthday a few weeks ago and I planned to treat myself to a gourmet cupcake that was AMAZING!

The key to losing weight and keeping it off is not a life of deprivation or eliminating the foods that you love. It's about managing those foods and enjoying them in moderation.

Do you have your own story like my cupcake story? What are some of the foods that you love to treat yourself with?

ME AT CAMI CAKES (GOURMET CUPCAKE SHOP) 

THE SWEET POTATO CUPCAKE THAT I CHOSE

Saturday, June 1, 2013

Skinny Chick Quote of the Day

"To be a great champion, you must believe you are the best. If not, pretend you are." 
-Muhammad Ali